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It’s very traumatizing to deliver before term. Talking to other parents who have been through it has helped us deal with feelings of guilt, anger, and so on, feelings that can take years to overcome. Gaëlle, Montreal (Quebec) |
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What does one say when the child is born with a handicap or a birth defect that is easily identified? Please say, “We love him anyway.” He’s a valuable human being. Paul and Alison, Windsor (Ontario) |
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It isn’t supposed to happen, we can never be prepared for it if it does, but sometimes our babies don’t live. I share this because our stillborn babies, our agonizing, nightmarish journeys to deliver them need to be acknowledged and understood. Sometimes there is no joy, no magical, intense feelings of wonder. Just a deep, lonely shock. Jim and Lori, British Columbia |
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Women never reveal to each other the pain they feel over the loss of their fertility. Chalk it up with the “I was right back in my old blue jeans when I lift the hospital,” myth. Trudy, Dartmouth (Nova Scotia) |
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